We want your kidney!

Oh so another very interesting H.W lata....thanks for keeping us err...our kidneys) busy...haha

Dear Lata, What to say. My dad passed away a year ago because of Kidney failure. The poor thing is that we came to know about this just one week before his death. One Kidney was functioning only 20% of the capacity and the other one was totally damaged. I really don't know how he was managing till that time. Also doctors said that kidney transplantation may not be successful. They took him for dialysis (his first and last dialysis) and I believe he got tensed and fear and during the process of dialysis he had heart attack and they had to stop doing dialysis immediately and transferred him to ICU. He was in Ventilator for one night and the next day he had second attack and passed away. Though it is more than a year, still unable to digest the feel that he is not there. (Crying while typing this) However, it is good that he passed away. Otherwise he has to undergo all these pains of dialysis through out his life time. Mahalakshmi

Dearest Maha, Extremely sorry to hear about ur loss.. For everyone in this world Dad is the most important person, especially to daughters, for me my Dad is THE most important person in the whole world. The reason I feel u were unable to detect it is because elders usually think they trouble us by sharing their pain and agony with us. My Dad too is one such person. He will never share his problems or feelings with anyone, we would find it out somehow. Please dont cry dear and just be happy he didnt suffer a lot. I know the loss is irreparable but just think that he is there somewhere looking over u and showering his love even after his death. Through this forum, I would like to request all the elders, pls feel free to express yourself, your presence is more important to us than your traumatic loss. The thoughts of losing you would trouble us more than the trouble of knowing that your sick.

Lata indeed this is very interesting. As a medical advisor I want to warn all the people not to ignore the pre-diabetic stage. We can reduce the incidence of diabetes particularly type-2 diabetes(wherein pancreatic beta-cells are quite normal to produce enough of insulin but either they are incapable of secreting insulin or insulin is secreted but unable to work at liver ,muscles and adipose tissues) by taking simple care at right time . Let me explain what is this pre-diabetic stage: If our blood glucose at fasting is less than 110mg/dl(recently this value is reduced t 100mg/dl by ADA-American diabetes association) and 2hrs post -prandial blood sugar is less than 140mg/dl them we are not diabetics and if our blood sugar at fasting is above 125mg/dl and above 200mg/dl after 2hrs of post prandial then we are confirmed diabetics .But what about the people with fasting blood glucose of 110-125mg/dl and post prandial blood glucose of 140-200mg/dl? These people are known as pre diabetics. Scientifically it is known as IGT (impaired glucose tolerance) or IFG (impaired fasting glucose). As u r aware diabetes is not a disease but a syndrome (bundles of complications) and there is as such no symptoms of diabetes and it is mostly detected either by ophthalmologist or surgeons as we do blood profile before any major or minor operations .Mostly diabetes is detected accidently .All the diabetes patient must be diabetic (pre-diabetic) at least 5-10 yrs before they have detected. What is very important in diabetes is prevention of complications .By the time the patient is detected some of the complications must be set in .The major complications are microvascular i.e. neuropathy (nerve disease) (3/4 Th patients always suffer from this), followed by retinopathy (eye disease) and nephropathy (kidney disease) We can prevent or at least delay this complications by simple measure like if both the parents are diabetics then start routinely checking the blood glucose every 6 months as early as possible (probably when u are in twenties) for pre-diabetes. If u r detected then start exercising regularly, control your diet and also start medications like Metformin under the doctor’s supervision. u can delay the time of converting from pre-diabetes to diabetes by another 10-15 yrs though completely prevention is not possible .And same time with proper antioxidant vitamin mineral combination u can further prevent the initiation of new complications and delay the progress of complications already set in . Lastly we can help in reducing the incidence of diabetes in India (as India is capital of diabetes, 51 millions are suffering from it) or any part of the world mainly by spreading the information about the diabetes and its complications. This is my opinion and already I have started the campaign “Fit India Movement” some time back by taking lectures in senior colleges as diabetes make us handicap Now, i stopped as I can’t take any more lectures due to eroding of my vocal cord and if I stress my vocal cord I may lose my voice permanently.

Rekha maam tx for the brief explanation dear. I hope we all take care of ourselves and be healthy and happy. Lata, sorry to hear about ur Dad dear. I know it must have been devastating and a shock for u at such a young age. Hats off to u dear, in spite of all this ur such a strong woman. This is what we call Woman Power.

I forgot to mention one of my cousin also had kidney failure and had undergone kidney transplant. Her own sister had donated a kidney to her but unfortunately she died a year and a half back in spite of a successful operation.

Pushpa mam, yes I agree with you. These elder people do not say anything to us about their problems. I too join Pushpa mam to convey the message to elders that please share your problems with your kids. They may help you in some or the other way. Dr Rekha, thanks for passing the info through this blog. Very sorry to hear that you have some problem with your vocal cord. I remember you telling us that you are very good singer. Now, how do you manage? Dear Lata, It's really very painful to hear that you missed your dad when you were in high school. It's really a big loss for the family. Mahalakshmi

Maha please feel free to call me Pushpa pa....

Mhalxmi I too have to share my experience about the death of my dear father which is very unfortunate. My dad had jaundice without any major symptoms .it is one of the fisher women asked my dad about yellowishness in his eyes .As all daughters love their father me too .in my case though we were five children my dad showered too much love to meand motivated me like anything . he always used to talk about me wherever he use to go .And see what I did, that day he collected the urine and told me to give it to pathology lab owned by my friend’s father but unfortunately I was late to my junior college and my friend was waiting outside the house and as I never, nerver talked loudly t my parents before this. only that day I told why only me even they(referring to my sisters ) can go to the lab and left with my friend .Throughout the journey I literally cried for the sin I have done .Same evening I learnt that my dad himself went to the lab. and we got the report in the evening with very high level of billirubin .Since my both the brothers at that time was out of Mumbai I decided to take him to specialist were I found the swelling in his leg .By the time the doctor told me that it is better to get him admitted it was already 10p.m .i decided to take him to his friend’s hospital on the way but to my surprise since I disturbed the doctor in his private meeting he told me where to keep ur dady in my head or what? I don’t have free bed and bluntly refused. t hurt me very much then I sent my dad home with my mom and visited another hospital where the doctor consoled me and got him admitted next day morning .His treatment started but with wrong thing as I was too young to interrupt their decision, which aggravate his condition and we have to move him to big hospital (Breech candy). there his condition started improving slowly .And that unfortunate day the discharge papers was getting ready ,meanwhile suddenly one lady supervisor came and took my signature for his hemodialysis .i was shocked as nothing was mentioned by the senior doctors when they came for their morning rounds except his discharge. I thought it might be for his good as it will purify the blood (it will remove the unnecessary medicines from his body)I have given the signature .When my dad has not come back to his room I started wondering and went to the 19th floor of the hospital. I saw the junior doctors were running for the help with suspicious I just moved the curtain t see my dad and for my shock I saw my dad is in pool of blood which I cannot forget .I tried to contact the senior doctors both of them were out of the campus. I understood with the symptoms that it is a rejection of body, the way he was throwing his hands and legs (later on we learnt that my dad was taken BY MISTAKE for the dialysis and there was rejection as he was given the wrong blood group. My father went to coma for three days and never came back to us .I always feel guilt about signing the paper and not taking the urine sample to lab which I always use to do for everyone .The day when the lady came to take the signature I have prepared the bendi ki sabji my dad’s favorite (as my mom was kept with my uncle’s house which is closer to the hospital as she used to stay in the hospital at night and I used to take care of him in the day) and about to feed ….. About my singing i can't raise my voice, as immediately i get the inflammation .Before last year our annual day program was stated with my Ganapathi shlok(shulam baradaram….) followed by Marathi bhajan "Gajananashri gana raya .......'along with the slide show done by me .Everybody appreciated the unique idea .but, see now i don't think i can sing again in any of the show sorry members if i bored u

I feel really sorry for Maha, Rekha and Lata. We learn lessons from everybody's life. mistakes are done in all levels and everywhere, we have to be very careful. Rekha, you yourself is a doctor, you know that people respect (believe) doctors as God that they will cure our dear ones. Sometimes, they make mistakes which may be smaller for them but it changes the life of many people. Of course, it is a big loss for you,don't feel guilty because you did nothing intentionally. Lata, i appreciate your mother for bringing you with courage and good qualities single handedly. I hope, i didn't hurt anybody. Rekha thanks for your useful information about pre-diabetic (my MIL is diagnosed as one).

Dr Rekha, Really felt very sad after hearing about your dad's death. You please take care of your health dear, don't strain too much. Mahalakshmi

Sorry for your loss Maha , Lata and Rekha - sudden death is a nasty shock indeed. My dad died of acute pancreatitis, which is inflamation of the pancreas. He used to have severe backaches but never went to the doctor - he used to take Brufen to kill the pain. Was a chain smoker for a very long time and reduced slowly to one packet a day. Suddenly one morning he went to work and came back in the afternoon with unbearable pain and before my brother and I could go home he slipped into coma, Mum had taken him to hospital and he was taken to ICU but it was too late and they had to turn off the ventilator as everything was over - all in a matter of 5 hours. 15 yrs have gone by but I still miss him very much as he is not around to see his grandchildren achieve so many things in life, especially my son who has taken after him in music would have made him so proud. Dec 22, 2010 (my 50th birthday and Anita's M.Phil viva), was a bad day for all of us as Anita's fiancee Raj's dad died suddenly of multiple organ failure. 20 years ago he had donated one of his kidneys to his sister, which was unfortunately rejected by her body (which means a waste of his one kidney) - her other sister donated a kidney which she is still living with. Raj's dad, he suddenly develoved fever and vomitting and was hospitalised for about 2 weeks after which they discovered that there was a bag of fluid just above his pancreas which was creating damage to it. They decided to operate and remove the the bag along with the damaged part of the pancreas which they did and though he came out of sedation after the operation he had to be on dialysis as his kidney stopped functioning. Just imagine - 3 dialysis in 2 days and that was the end of the story. Raj is in a very bad shape and is still not out of shock as he was very close to his dad. Sorry Lata, no kidney kolams for me please - the last few months have been traumatic for all of us.

My heartfelt condolences to Maha, Dr.Rekha, Lata & Judy for the very difficult phases that they have passed in life. Definitely, the loss of a loved one can never, ever be compensated. With the passage of years, the wounds may heal, but the memories of the hurt stay forever. My father passed away when I was 7 and my brother 2.5 yrs old. He was diagnosed with Stage IV (advanced) Cancer in the stomach. This happened despite my father being a teetotaller and a non-smoker; he even considered chewing plain betel leaves a very bad habit. My mom, a strong lady brought up my brother and me. I would like to make a simple addition to what Dr.Rekha has mentioned. Obesity is also known to increase the likelihood of Hydpertension, Diabetes, Heart disease and other such life style diseases/ disorders. So, even if we do not have any of these diseases, it is always good to regularly exercise (at least go for a walk everyday) and mantain our body weight in the healthy range (and not just starting to exercise after being diagnosed). Even for those people who are slim, regular excercising helps a lot to keep away these diseases or atleast delay their onset. -Sindhuja

Oh...so bad...i never thought this page would be filled with so much sad incidents and memories.....my sincere heartfelt condolences to all of u friends....thanks a lot rekha mam for sharing so much on diabetes, and u know what i lost my father just after 5hrs of inviting for my younger brother's marriage ....just 16 days to go for my brother's marriage and myself and my father went to thanjavour and finished inviting all our relatives ...but i went to Arandhaangi to my cousin sister's house and my father returned to our house at trichy...at midnight i received that horrible phonecall from my younger bro that my dad had died of heart attack...just happened in a few seconds before my bro could realise what was happening...imagine d trauma we went after that when d next day all those relatives came ....but d better part is my mom was adament we continue with d marriage and so it took place on d exact date...16 days after my father's death....10yrs have passed by...but still i remember each and every moment of that day....

Wow this is so overwhelming. Just a day after Women's day and I get to see so many strong women in this commenting section. Rani mam's mom, Sindhu's mom. Hats off to all the unsung heroines I must say. Rekha maam sorry to hear about ur loss dear. Please never feel guilty about all that has happened. This commenting section has shed light on all the strong women our Ikolam site has and I am so proud to be a part of it.

so many sad stories.I was very much disturbed .I feel very sorry maha, rekha and lata.

Judy mam, Sindhu mam & Ammu mam - my heartfelt condolences to all of you. I would like to introduce here another herione - My MIL. She got married when she was 30 years. That too after compulsion by her family members. Otherwise she didn't have any idea of getting married. She just completed 5 years of married life when my FIL was dead (He died because of Jaundice). My hubby was 4 years and BIL was 11/2 yrs old. Luckily she was working under State Govt. She brought up these two kids with strong will power. Ofcourse, her family members supported her a lot. She is physically challenged too. Somehow, she has led her life all through these many years. Now both her sons and DILs see to that she is happy always. She is now enjoying with her Grand son (my son -19 months old) a lot. Mahalakshmi

Wow Maha so nice to hear such inspirational stories... do give her my heartfelt wishes and Namaskaram... may God bless her with good health...

Ammu, very sad to listen the sudden death of ur dad that too when there was a marriage in the home .HATS OFF TO ur, lata's, maha's and my mother .They are really a role model to us .Salute to ur mother’s decision . We should learn from their life and decisions. My mother always says whatever comes in a way face it strongly .Take it as a part and parcel of your life .When my dady died she was only 45 .10yrs back she lost her son .Now she is staying alone whenever she wants she comes to our place .I always feel she is another jansi ki rani .

I think I am seeing my future in some of these tales. Regards! - mOhana

Maha .I salute ur MIL from my core of heart. Really she is very lucky to have DIL like u who cares for her happiness .It is very nice to understand that u treat her like ur own mother. i am really proud of u dear .Give my love and prayers to ur son .

Reading this page make my heart heavy! I can read only one real life incidents at a time! I pray God for everyone's health!

Mahalakshmi ma'am, very sorry to hear about your loss. You are right. It is very difficult to digest the fact that your parent is no more. Nobody, I repeat, NOBODY can replace their loss. However, as you yurself have said rightly, you have to take solace from the fact that had he lived more, he would have had to suffer more - which would have been really unbearable for you. Lata ma'am you have lost your father at such a young age. It pains me to hear this. Rekha ma'am please take care of your throat and continue your campaign through other mode of communication. Sindhuju, how much trouble your mother would have taken and turbulence she would have undergone in her life to bring up you and your brother. She is a real strong woman. Ammu ma'am you are right. How can one forget one's father - let it be 10 or 20 or 30 years. Your Mother - Salutations to her.

See http://www.thehindu.com/health/rx/article1525746.ece for an article on chronic kidney disorders. Regards! - mOhana

to be 100% true this page made me cry for nearly 15mins, i didnt log in to d site for d past few days and smhw misd this pg, all ur lines lata, maha, rekha, rani, jude ,sindhu, made me just moan my dear frnz.., lata ur mom has provd herself grt through her broughtups, rekha mam, i often used to admire ur jovial naughty nature but this story made me just cry, pls dont feel guilty since u didnt do anything purposely, its all fate. rani, its really a horrible pain to give up ur dear father all of a sudden, iam very sorry abt that dear, jude, on seeing ur family foto i thought that sure ur mom must b a strong lady and she has really proved it, last saturday my relatives daughter pooja kutti(6yrs)passed away due to kidney failure. , pooja was such a lovely kid often reminds me like a barbie doll, its so sad that she even attended her skool d previous day, i coudnt tolerate d loud cries of suja(her mom) which just stunned d entire area that day, pooja was born after 7yrs of their marriage, thank god suja has got one more kid sowmya, lata, after reading this heavy pg sorry no kidney kolams from me pls

Lata if u permit i can send initial two slides of my “Fit India Movement “campaign .just to have an idea how i conducted this programs with students but to tell u frankly all the lecturers and the principles including to my surprise ex-lecturer's attended this program .To make it interesting i have kept few jokes, games and quiz along with small gifts.

Sorry lata see how impatient i have become. Before seeing ur comment i have uploaded the picture of slides which i wanted to upload after seeing ur comment(absolutely in unconscious mind ,may be the post affect of my disturbed sleep for fast few days .today I have decided to start my meditation ) Once again extremely sorry for my conduct

Thank u lata.

Lata, nice to know that we can discuss more on regular exercising, some time later. With the help of Dr.Rekha, we could probably look into making fitness as part of our daily lives... :) thank u -Sindhuja

Sindu excellent idea.

H) Hello there! It is a great blog you can find :)